Monday, August 20, 2018

Secrets to Emotional Well-Being

 Your emotions help dictate your state of mind. This means that to keep your state of mind intact, it's necessary to have emotional balance. That way, you can make it through even the toughest times.

You can enhance your emotional well-being, so when challenging times come around, you'll be more prepared to handle them!

These strategies can help you manage your emotions effectively:

1. Identify your support system. It's very easy to experience emotional dips. This is especially true when you’re making emotionally charged decisions.

Identify friends or family members who can be the voice of reason. While your emotions are cross-wired, it helps to have an external voice guiding you towards making an appropriate decision.

It's healthy to discuss various topics with members of your support system. It helps them see how you think in different situations.

2. Confront your emotions. Avoid hiding from negative feelings. Facing your emotions is the best way to overcome them. And the more you practice, the easier it will become to stay calm during emotional circumstances.

 If you're heartbroken, it isn’t healthy to try and pretend otherwise. Allow the reactions to come. If you feel like crying or screaming, go ahead. It will help you gain closure and a fuller understanding of your feelings.

 It isn’t necessary to question why you’re feeling a certain way. Identify the source of the emotion and work at confronting it instead. Avoid apologizing for your emotions.

3. Celebrate your strengths. There's no better way to build emotional well-being than by celebrating your strengths. Identify your attributes, talents, and skills that make you feel confident. Remind yourself of how resilient and powerful you are.

 Your strengths aren't to be taken lightly. They form your backbone.

Openly acknowledging your strengths sub-consciously helps you believe in yourself. In turn, you develop a sound emotional state.

4. Provide support to others. This goes hand in hand with relying on your own support team. Exposing yourself to the emotions of others helps you to process them better. You take things for face value. You can be impartial, fair, and just.

 When you support others, you’re required to be truthful and honest. Displaying honesty about someone else’s emotions can help you develop the same honesty about your own.

Helping others work through challenges can make you appreciate all sorts of emotions and build up your own emotional well-being.

5. Keep your surroundings positive. Maintaining a positive environment is very important. It helps you concentrate on positive emotions and aids in the healing process. It’s much easier to effectively manage your emotions when you’re surrounded by positive energy.

 Take part in activities you enjoy. This isn’t an effort to dismiss your emotions. It’s simply a tool for developing a positive mindset.

That positive mindset reinforces your ability to be impartial and fair. It's tempting to be hard on yourself, especially when you're surrounded by negative influences.

Remember that you have your emotions for a reason! They help you empathize with others going through similar situations and give you hope. Use these tips to enhance your emotional well-being. You’ll be glad you did!

Sunday, August 12, 2018

Hear People Out

A farmer named George had a tractor accident. In court, the trucking company's  lawyer was questioning George. "Didn't you say, at the scene of the accident, 'I'm fine,'?" asked the lawyer.

George responded, "Well, I'll tell you what happened. I had just loaded my favorite cow, Bessie, into the..."

"I didn't ask for any details", the lawyer interrupted. "Just answer the question, please. Did you, or did you not say, at the scene of the accident, 'I'm fine!'?"

George said, "Well, I had just got Bessie into the trailer behind the tractor and I was driving down the road...."

The lawyer interrupted again and said, "Your Honor, I am trying to establish the fact that, at the scene of the accident, this man told the Highway Patrolman that he was just fine. Now several weeks after the accident he is trying to sue my client. I believe he is a fraud. Please tell him to simply answer the question."

By this time, the Judge was fairly interested in George's answer and said to the lawyer, "I'd like to hear what he has to say about his favorite cow, Bessie".

George thanked the Judge and proceeded. "Well, as I was saying, I had just loaded Bessie, my favorite cow, into the trailer and was driving her down the highway when this huge semi-truck and trailer ran the stop sign and smacked my John Deer Tractor right in the side. I was thrown into one ditch and Bessie was thrown into the other. I was hurting, real bad and didn't want to move. However, I could hear old Bessie moaning and groaning. I knew she was in terrible pain just by her groans.

Shortly after the accident a Highway Patrolman came on the scene. He could hear Bessie moaning and groaning, so he went over to her. After he looked at her, and saw her serious condition, he took out his gun and shot her between the eyes. Then the Patrolman came across the road, with gun still in his hand looked at me and said, "How are you feeling?"

"Now tell me sir, what would you say?"

Lesson: Always hear people out to get the full story.

Monday, August 6, 2018

Act In Love

One day a snake entered a workshop and as it crawled around on the work tables it went over a saw blade and hurt itself a little. At that time he turned and bit the saw, and while biting the saw blade he hurt himself badly in the mouth.

Then, not understanding what was happening to him and thinking that the saw was attacking him, he decided to curl around the saw as if wanting to suffocate it with his whole body, and shaking with all his strength. Unfortunately for the snake, this ended up killing him. 

Sometimes we react in anger, thinking about hurting those who hurt us, but we are only hurting ourselves.  In life, sometimes it is better to ignore situations, people and offenses, because sometimes the consequences can be permanent and disastrous.  It is always better to act in love and not hate.

Sunday, August 5, 2018

Keep Moving

A large group of frogs were traveling through the woods one day and two of them fell into a deep hole. When the other frogs saw how deep the hole was, they told the two frogs that there was nothing they could do. The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the deep hole with all their might.  

The other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they were as good as dead. Finally, one of the frogs took heed to what the other frogs were saying and gave up. He fell down and died.  

The other trapped frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, all the other frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die. He jumped even harder and finally made it out.  

When he got out, the other frogs said, "Did you not hear us?" The frog explained to them that he was deaf. He thought they were encouraging him the entire time. 

Again the lesson is, never give up.  You have to keep moving.  

Thursday, August 2, 2018

The Mule In The Well

The story is told of a farmer who owned an old mule. One day the mule fell into the farmer's well. The farmer heard the mule 'braying' (that's mule talk for crying for help) and after carefully assessing the situation, the farmer sympathized with the mule, but decided that neither the mule nor the well was worth the trouble of saving. So the farmer called his neighbors together and told them what had happened and asked them to help haul dirt to bury the old mule in the well and put him out of his misery.

To begin with, the old mule was hysterical. But as the farmer and his neighbors continued shoveling and the dirt hit his back, a thought struck him. It suddenly dawned on him that every time a shovel load of dirt landed on his back, he should shake it off and step up. This he did, blow after blow. He repeated to himself, "shake it off and step up, shake it off and step up, shake it off and step up." No matter how painful the blows, or how distressing the situation seemed the old mule fought the panic and just kept right on shaking it off and stepping up.  

It wasn't long before the old mule, battered and exhausted, stepped victoriously over the wall of the well.  

What seemed like it would bury him had actually blessed him, all because of the manner in which he handled his adversity. If we face our problems, respond to them positively, and refuse to give in to panic or self-pity, the adversities that come along to bury us usually have within them the potential to benefit us.  

So when you going through rough times, remember the ole mule. Step up, shake it off and keep moving. 

Wednesday, August 1, 2018

Never Give Up Said The Frog

A careless frog was hopping around a farmyard when all of a sudden he fell into a pail half-filled with fresh milk 

As he swam about attempting to reach the top of the pail, he found that the sides of the pail were too high and too steep. He stretched his back legs to push off the bottom of the pail but found it too deep. 

But this wasn't your average frog, this frog was determined not to give up, and he continued the struggle. 

He kicked and squirmed and kicked and squirmed, until at last, all his churning about in the milk had turned the milk into a big hunk of butter. The butter was now solid enough for him to climb up on and hop out of the pail.  

The lesson is, Never Give Up.  Keep trying, keep moving and you will get there. 

The Bamboo Tree Story

Once upon a time a man planted a bamboo tree. It was a small seedling and the man cared for it each day.  He watered it and made sure it had the proper sunlight to grow.  After a year's time, the man saw that the plant had not grown at all, but he continued the watering and caring for it. 

After the second year the plant had not grown, but he continued watering and caring for it through the third and the fourth year. Suddenly, as if by magic, in the fifth year it began growing. In fact, it grew two and a half feet a day until in six weeks it was ninety feet tall. 

The bamboo tree's growth is not magic. During its first five years, when it seems nothing is happening, it develops miles of roots beneath the ground. Though no growth is visible, the foundation is being established and strengthened. 

The lesson:  There are times when we feel our lives are standing still and nothing is changing.  In reality, those are the days we are building our own roots and growing strong for the days ahead. 

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